Iowa History Project
The following rules and regulations were in force at the Friends’ Boarding School at Stavanger, Iowa, during the year 1910-1911:
“Students will be expected to show due respect for the officers and teachers of the institution and for each other, giving cheerful compliance to the rules and regulations of the same.
“All persons connected with the school are expected to attend meetings for worship at the Friends meeting house nearby, on First and Fifth days of the week, conducting themselves in a manner becoming the occasion.
“Visiting will not be expected in or about the building on the 1st day of the week and pupils are not to leave the premises without permission.
“It will be expected that the pupils use the English language in their general intercourse among themselves and others, and in the use of language it is requested that the correct form [thou and thee] in regard to which Friends bear a testimony and is set forth in the Holy Scripture.
“Students are respectfully requested to dispense with such apparel, jewelry and fashionable customs inconsistent with true simplicity which the committee superintendent and matron shall indicate.
“Tobacco in any form, chewing gum, musical instruments and firearms are strictly forbidden, and any reading matter found in the possession of the pupils or anything being practiced which the committee or care takers consider objectionable are to be removed.
The following “Queries” were read annually before each Preparative and Monthly Meeting of Friends, and were answered in writing as prescribed by the Discipline of Indiana Yearly Meeting, 1854, pp. 81, 82. Practically the same queries are used among all branches of the Friends in Iowa to-day.
“First Query.—Are all the meetings for worship and discipline attended? Do Friends avoid unbecoming behavior therein? And is the hour of meeting observed?
“Second.—Are Friends preserved in christian love one toward another? Are tale-bearing and detraction discouraged? And when differences arise, are endeavors used speedily to end them?
“Third.—Do Friends endeavor, by example and precept, to educate their children, and those under their care, in the principles of the Christian religion, and in plainness of speech, deportment, and apparel? Do they guard them against reading pernicious books, and from corrupt conversation? And are they encouraged to read the Holy Scriptures diligently?
“Fourth.—Are Friends clear of importing, vending distilling, and the unnecessary use of all intoxicating liquors? And attending circus-shows and other places of diversion? And do they observe moderation and temperance on all occasions?
“Fifth.—Are the necessities of the poor, and the circumstances of those who may appear likely to require aid, inspected and relieved? Are they advised and assisted in such employments as they are capable of; and is due care taken to promote the school-education of their children?
“Sixth.—Do Friends maintain a testimony against priests’ and ministers’ wages? Against Slavery; oaths; bearing arms, and all military services; trading in goods taken in war; and against lotteries.
“Seventh.—Are Friends careful to live within the bounds of their circumstances, and to avoid involving themselves in business beyond their ability to manage; or in hazardous or speculative trade? Are they just in their dealings, and punctual in complying with their contracts and engagements; and in paying their debts seasonably? And where any give reasonable grounds for fear in these respects, is due care extended to them?
“Eighth.—Is care taken to deal with offenders seasonably and impartially, and to endeavor to evince to those who will not be reclaimed, the spirit of meekness and love, before judgment is placed upon them?
The following is the accustomed form of the Quaker marriage certificate as prescribed by the Quaker marriage certificate as prescribed by the Indiana Yearly Meeting of Friends in its Discipline for 1854, p. 53:
“Whereas, A. B. of _______ in the county of ______, in the state of ______ son of C. and H. B. of _______; and D. E. daughter of F. and G. E. of ______ having declared their intentions of marriage with each other, before a Monthly meeting of the religious society of Friends, held at ______ (where the parties are under the care of parents or guardians, unless in the case of unreasonable objections, add) and having consent of parents or guardians concerned, (as the case may be) their proposals of marriage were allowed by said meeting. These are to certify whom it may concern, that for the full accomplishment of their said intentions, this______ day of the ______ month, in the year of our Lord ______, they, the said A. B. and D. E. appeared in a public meeting of the said people, held at ______ aforesaid; and the said A. B. Taking the said D. E. by the hand, declared that he took her to be his wife, promising, with divine assistance, to be unto her a loving and faithful husband, until death should separate them: and then the said D. E. did in like manner declare, that she took him the said A. B. to be her husband, promising, with divine assistance, to be unto him a loving and faithful wife, until death should separate them. And moreover, they, the said A. B. and D. E. (she according to the custom of marriage adopting the name of her husband) did, as a further confirmation thereof, then and there, to these presents set their hands.
“And we, whose names are also hereunto subscribed, being present at the solemnization of the said marriage have, as witnesses thereto, set our hands the day and year above written.”